Shared kids’ bedroom
Since my daughter was born, and my son was almost 3 (they are 2 years and 9 months apart), they’ve had a shared kids’ bedroom. For the longest time it was because we lived in a 2-bedroom apartment, but eventually they became inseparable. And when we moved into our home almost 3 years ago, they decided they still wanted to share a room (despite us having extra space).
Honestly they’re like two drunk college kids, constantly laughing at each other’s ridiculously stupid jokes. It makes my stone cold heart melt. And whenever I share their room on Instagram, I always get questions about how they like it, how it’s working out, and if I would recommend it.
My short answer? Yes. And if I could do it all over again with separate rooms, I wouldn’t. Here’s why:
1. Having a shared kid’s bedroom has made them incredibly close
Honestly so close it’s annoying (kidddinggg). But in all seriousness, I find myself constantly thinking to myself, God I hope they stay this close forever. Though they sometimes won’t admit it, they are each other’s best friends. They truly love each other, and their bond is so strong. I’m sure it doesn’t all stem back to sharing a bedroom, but I’m 100% sure it was a huge factor.
2. Having a shared kid’s bedroom has created so many sweet memories
I can hear them giggling and whispering every night before bed. And even though I’m constantly yelling at them to be quiet and get some sleep, it secretly makes my heart melt. They share jokes, share secrets, and even plot against my husband and I like the time they tricked us into revealing the tooth fairy wasn’t real (if you know, you know).
3. Having a shared kid’s bedroom has created more space for a playroom/second living space
I loved having one space for their shared kids bedroom, and the other for a shared playroom. This also piggybacks on #1 because having a playroom is just another space in our home that they share together.
We also have a TV and a couch in there, and so it serves as a second living room as well.
4. Having a shared kid’s bedroom has made bedtime so much easier
Having both kids in one room, with one bedtime, has made our lives SO MUCH EASIER. I never had to run back and forth from one room to the next, and I was able to read books to two kids at once and not feel rushed. I can’t imagine doing that routine twice every night and having each kid ask me for JUST ONE MORE BOOK.
5. Having a shared kid’s bedroom created a sense of security
I can imagine that if they slept alone, they’d be much more inclined to climb into our bed every night. And look, they still did on some nights. But having each other has made them feel safer, and created a sense of security that wouldn’t otherwise be there. That monster under the bed is a little less scary when you have your sibling sleeping 3 feet away from you in the same room. And bonus points, better sleep for mom and dad.
6. Having a shared kid’s bedroom has taught them to share and sharpen their communication skills
Sounds obvious, right? And while we may have the occasional fight, it’s honestly been pretty rare in our house. Their communication skills with each other whether resolving a fight, or deciding who gets to play with a certain toy first, has definitely sharpened. They share a lot of things in our home, and have learned to problem solve and communicate respectfully. And no doubt does this spill over into school and other social interactions. They know how to share with others, and have grown into the most generous, communicative little humans.
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